I came up with this post after reading Shah’s comment on my last blog entry. I got married here in Germany so this post is totally based on my experience.
Firstly, ich muss sagen, that every Stadt is different so the required documents may or may not be the same. The one important rule is to go into your local Rathaus und ask. They will easily answer all your questions and give you better information than anything online because rules can change and may sometimes not be immediately updated online.
So this post is based on one spouse being German and the other ein Ausländer.
Before I arrived Germany, Gorgeousness already asked at the city’s Standesamt about what documents I needed before we could get legally married. This he did because every other option just wasn’t working out. We didn’t have enough Geld for a Vegas wedding(which would have actually been cool oder?!) And going to Denmark was out of the question because the German law wasn’t accepting that sneaky method anymore! Which would have been so much easier. I must say that Gorgeousness always doing the right thing has helped us out in so many ways(not that I’m a lawbreaker of course!) But it was this trait that made him say: to hell with it, I’m walking into the Rathaus! A lot of people online discouraged us. Oh don’t bother marrying a German person, the requirements are impossible, don’t waste your time…u get the point abi? Ehen so imagine my Angst while waiting for his call!
Anyways, I was asked for a six months old birth certificate, a letter from the American embassy stating I was single and a letter of approval from my father. And of course, a valid passport. All these were to be translated into Deutsch. We were also asked to bring along a translator or pay them to get us one. Our first choice didn’t have a valid identity card so he asked his mum and she agreed which I thought was really nice. And she is such a pretty woman.
Now I was certain getting a new birth cert would be like searching for a needle in a haystack but surprisingly, it was a total cup of tea. The embassy gave me a link where I could order for a new certificate and it cost us about 50€ more or less to have it made and posted and it took four weeks I believe. Then we made an appointment for my single status document at the embassy.
With the approval letter from my father and all other documents, we made a termin at the Standesamt and with our translator, we went in.
A lot of questions I don’t recall were asked. But nothing million dollar like. We were also informed on the laws of marriage, our religion, taking his name or keeping mine, combining the American marrying laws with the German and all that jazz. Just for the record, if you registered as a dual citizen, you will be asked which country’s law you want to marry with alongside the German law. Choose wisely(pulling right ear!! Lol)
Then we were given a wedding date for a month from then.
To be honest, I didn’t think the date would be so near. I wanted my sister present but with that timing, it was just not possible. There really wasn’t any chance to plan so I’m looking fwd to us having our church wedding. Yes, I’m wearing a white dress!
I used to dream about ball gowns and princessy feels aber jetzt muss ich realistisch sein. Viele ball gowns sind sehr teuer and auf jedenfalls wird mein Brautkleid schön sein! Duh!
I have all these amazing plans and thankfully, Gorgeousness isn’t up for anything big which def helps with the planning Gott sei dank!
Oh and apparently, there is such a thing as a German wedding. It’s a bit more like the Bavarian culture but these days, everyone just pops in and out of the Rathaus.
So, bist du ein Ausländer? Möchtest du in Deutschland heiraten? Dann geht einfach in ein Standesamt und frag dort! Ganz ganz wichtig.