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[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he fickleness (forgive the lack of a much better adjective) of the human mind can be so mind boggling, it makes you start to question what’s wrong and what’s not wrong. The quick way life is disregarded based on race, culture and whatever crap is out there to segregate us makes you start to doubt your own sanity!

Recently, the world has been buzzing over Mr Jenner’s new gender and it has been bothering me. What you say? Not his decision to become a woman at 65, but the different responses from people. What the media is tossing into our faces, forcing you to support him, calling him brave and when you offer your opinion( OK let’s be honest, some opinions are just wayyyyyy too much!)that is against his decision, you are labelled closed minded and his supporters judge you and call you every kind of name in the book plus the ones not writable!

The transgender community has been there long before Mr Jenner proclaimed his obsession. Why his move is called brave is beyond me. He was an athletic hero so what?

The young boy who was bullied all his life cos of his preference but still went on and did his surgery, why isn’t he brave? The gay young man who finally got the courage to inform his family isn’t brave? The lesbian who broke her mum’s heart with the news that she won’t be having kids isn’t brave?

The transgender people making a huge difference in a world that still truly doesn’t understand them aren’t called brave.

The cancer patient who chose to let her baby live isn’t brave? The security guard at the bank or the police officer who every morning kisses his wife and kids goodbye knowing he may not come home but still goes to work isn’t brave?

They don’t get a blazillion followers or magazine spreads to get approval from strangers or start a TV series to satisfy a stupid media culture with the utmost disregard for humanity.

If you aren’t on the band wagon of people supporting idiocy then you are the devil. If you voice your opinion which is opposite to what the media is shoving out, you get trampled on and that’s the way it is!

Being a woman isn’t all about big boobs, red cleavage popping gowns, front cover debut and all that superficial nonsense that makes us objects of desire.

Whatever reason he came up with is entirely his problem and that of his family to deal with. Turning the internet into an evil boxing ring because of his supposedly brave decision and creeping out my news feed isn’t helping anyone…me inclusive.

The world is full of brave people, people unknown, people no one cares about, people doing great and wonderful things. Shouldn’t we be celebrating them instead?

If (and that’s a big if)Mr Jenner’s decision was purely based on his true feeling then he shouldn’t be advertising it like it’s some miraculous change because it simply isn’t.

Do I agree with his becoming a woman now? My opinion means nothing because we don’t know each other. I don’t understand the transgender community or even want to but that doesn’t make me or them bad. They are people just like me, they bleed, they piss, they poop and they do everything normal.

Am I judgmental? Maybe I am or not but the fact is my opinion or anyone else’s doesn’t matter because we do not know these people personally and have no say whatsoever in the changes they choose to make.

Some of the coolest people are transgender but don’t you dare say it’s the same thing with being a real woman because it is not. Plain and simple.

Me? I’m celebrating my brave sister who despite all odds, is the best mom ever, I’m celebrating Gorgeousness who despite my weirdness, is brave with his love towards me, I’m celebrating the woman who would hold down her pea sized faith in God, praying and believing in the miracle of being a mother some day. I am celebrating the true brave people out there whose name I do not know.

If you know anyone, transgender or not,making true impact, please celebrate them.



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  • Cara Siskova

    You have the sweetest soul! Love this.

  • New Dawn.

    #W-O-R-D!!!# #P-R-E-A-C-H!!!#
    You are brave for airing your view and taking a stand. Unlike some who will play Mr understanding or nice guy in public but castigate them in private. It was my stand on this issue in the past, that people called me controversial and very un pleasant names and I made foes and frenemies in blogsville. I cannot pretend to accept what I don’t like simply to please everybody or to be called nice! What I do now, is to avoid discussing such topic in any blog, so as not to stir any controversy, but I decided to comment on it in your post to show my solidarity for you … you are a BRAVE young lady!

    • Nitty, that’s the sad part of it all. Its all well and good for them to show their support but the minute you are against their cause, you get labelled and seen as an evil person just because you said this isn’t what you believe in. What would the world be if we all agreed on the same things all the time?
      Can’t we all just act mature and agree to disagree without names flying off?

  • Duru John de Beloved

    First off… I am Anti-Gay, Anti- Transgender and Anti- all the big big grammar they use to define sodomy… I mean I cannot understand why someone will make the choice to become that.. Its WRONG Ausserehl and i say that without mincing words.. Soooo the Jenner guy is 60 something sef?! Thats just strange in all ramifications.. Egbon to this 23 years 5 m onths and 28 days Young and utterly confused man yeah, there are something that humans cannot just understand… and this is one of them. I mean Growing up is tough work yeah, but no man was born Gay.. They simply Choose to become it…

    That being said.. I read about an Athlete who was Ex-Military and taking the world by storm.. and when i read it on a friends Instgram page and yours as well, When i read that he came second in a bravery kinikan contest.. and this Jenner guy came first.. i was shocked to my veins… The world has truly lost all sense of Decency Egbon.. Truly yeah.. The world is ending faster than i anticipated… it is well… 🙁 It is scary…

    • Hahah all the big grammar! Just yesterday I was thinking about how words are formed to give names to things just be in some group of minority wanting to be seen and heard.
      And I totally agree with you. No one was born gay, its a life you choose but of course, they come up with defence mechanisms so great that you start to doubt yourself. Why they get angry when you say they chose to be gay is beyond me. Its the truth and its bitter and they just cannot handle it I guess. Be proud of who you are is my mantra. Gay or straight, its what’s in your heart that counts not your sexual preference.
      As for the award, I’m still gobsmacked but hey, the world is now ruled by the media and ppl accept rubbish just to get fame.

  • Chidinma

    Being gay, Transgender and the whole lot is something I do not understand and I dint think I ever will. com

    • Yes I can understand that. I’m ok living in my close minded bubble. Ppl grumble about Christians forcing their religion on them and then they turn around and do the same thing…. Forcing their open minds on us happily closed minded people. Lol

  • I don’t get it. It’s like if you have an opinion that is contrary in any way it makes you close minded etc. I don’t have a problem with gay people or transgender people. But I just feel that this is not brave. Had he did this 20 years ago, THEN this would have been considered brave. But he has enough fixers and PR people to know that right now is a time where he can do it and be accepted. I think the usage of the word brave here is too much. You know what’s brave? Having the courage to be yourself AGAINST ALL ODDS is brave. The time period we live in today, Caitlyn’s transition isn’t brave. Now if a RAPPER came out and said he was gay, THAT RIGHT THERE WOULD BE BRAVE.


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  • my thoughts exactly deutsche Diva. there isnt anything brave about what he did. bold certainly but no where near brave.

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