Dark skin

The Hässliche Wahrheit About Haut Farbe

I am still dreaming of spring, 2017 goals are still fresh and it is step by step! *See last post!*

Anyways, I visited a blog after recommendations from curlspopping and I read this post that discussed a race topic.

I quite agree with her on the fact that the savior mentality is real and should be squashed.

The black woman struggles daily and to have people ignore you when you point out the problem but applaud a person for fixing it is may be not just wrong but very disrespectful. And this is the problem. A lot of non black folks are quick to admit that there isn’t any race problem which is why when black people bring the issue up, they sound like race baiters, people who only see segregation and are intent on division.

Now according to her post which was based on the NASA movie involving the black queens who made history behind closed doors, she was upset that no one applauded Taraji P Henson’´s character for pointing out the problem and my question was why didn’t she? Should we have to wait for someone to take the first step before we join in? What was it Obama said? Be the change you want!

No one but us will celebrate us and that is a fact. The black community got upset with Marc Jacobs for using hair styles made famous by black people who by the way get dissed for it, on his caucasian models and had not one dark model. Yet, according to news, beyonce was seen wearing an outfit from that exact same line.

Talking about beyonce, she made a speech during an award show, talking about how no one wanted to dress her girl band because they were nobody and black no less- today, she is a multi millionaire and she struts around with clothes styled by same people to whom she was invincible and yet she is a demi god to a ton of people? I’m clueless as to how that is.

The blogger’s response to my comment on her post was amazing. I was in awe of how she accepted the fact that she could have done something and not wait for other people. She is an amazing blogger and has all these interesting posts about being African which I totally love!

Our skin is and should be our pride. How we respect it reflects on who we are. Our skin shouldn’t limit us.

We need to rise above it all….And by that I mean every single thing that promises to shut us down. The black community in America came up with the slogan “stay woke” and for me I think a lot of people hide behind that. There isn’t any nation as unwoke as the American people and it’s sad really.

But you know, what do I know abi? I’m just here, sipping my glass of cheap red wine.

I have accepted the clowns in the white House, and that is me being the bigger person ….However unwilling!

Agreements that probably took a while to be negotiated, have been destroyed by bigotry, fear and hate.

But we aren’t talking about that are we? No hell no. We are talking about how the color of my skin scares idiots into hating anyone that looks like me.

Fear is a powerful thing and it is dangerous. Hate even more so. No one is born with all these evil feelings. They are taught as we know. But you can’t keep blaming parents anymore. When kids grow up, go to school and interact, they are able to tell the difference between good and bad.

Whatever choices they make is on them from then on and not their idiotic parents. So me? I stopped blaming parents because kids when they get older should know better. They cannot be hiding behind bad parenting for the rest of their sorry lives because they then become what their parents are and the vicious cycle goes on forever.

Talking about skin color, I grew up not liking the term “people of color”.

It made no sense to me as to why black people in America would be OK with being described as a person of color. According to Wikipedia, Joseph Truman argues that the term is attractive because it unites disparate ethnic and racial groups into a larger collective in solidarity with one another.

Infact, the term was mostly used for mixed race people but was later used to describe black people.

Me, I say hogwash!

Black people were called colored and the term was deemed offensive yet somehow, person of color isn’t offensive? I can’t wrap my head around that one.

My skin is brown. My blood is red. I’m a black woman.

I’m not a person of color…Side eye…I don’t turn pink when pinched or blue when hit( now please tell me how a Caucasian person wouldn’t be offended by that)

No offense Liebhaber… I’m trying to make a point. And I still love you, pink cheeks and all!!!!!

But seriously, I never refer to myself as a woman of color because that’s not what I am.

My skin is brown, my blood is red. I am a black woman.

I think that someone woke up from a good sleep and said to himself(because we know it has to be a man don’t we?) “Darn it! Today I will make it known that from hence forth, anyone with one white parent will be called a person of color.”

Or maybe “Aw shucks! Nah that dude got it wrong. Every black American is a person of interest…Oh I mean color. Yes that’s right. A person of color.”

Skin color shouldn’t be a determining factor as to who or what a person is or can do. Having a dark skin tone shouldn’t be a cause for alarm.

I grew up understanding that my very dark skin offended a lot of people, men and women alike. “You are so black.”

“Why are you so dark,” they would ask me when they saw my twin or older sister.

“You are too dark, tattoos will not show on your black skin.” Ironically, the person who said this to me, his nose all wrinkled up by the idea of a girl being as dark as I am, had a darker skin tone than I did.

But hey, it’s OK because he is male and he gets a pass for his chromosome that was given to him by a woman who probably looked like me.

My skin is brown, my blood is red. I am a black woman.

Girls in Nigeria turn to the tubs of cream to help rid them of their skin tone because men don’t find dark skin sexy. Sad isn’t it.

Speaking of, have you ever wondered why people are angry when a dark girl turns her skin white but a man becomes a woman and a community is created for him? He is called brave and awards are tossed at him? Please don’t site health issues because both face risks.

Seems very much like a man’s world oder?

Chew on that but enjoy the week and stay safe.



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  • Hey J,

    I remember reading a similar article. I’m thinking to myself, if you didn’t want to dress me because I was a curvy brown nobody, now I’m popular you want to dress me, I would focus on group economics and use black designers who can design just as well but are nobodies. Someone has to give us a chance. I don’t understand how she can turn around and support and give her money to these same brands who didn’t want to give her chance.

    I also wondered about the term ‘women of color’ when I heard it at first. I was like if ‘colored’ is offensive, then how is it ‘women of color’ is not offensive? I didn’t get it, I guess it’s just one of those things. I prefer not to be identified as a woman of color but I know that some do, so it’s something that I’ve accepted. I really don’t understand why I just can’t be a human with brown skin. My skin color should be an adjective and a descriptor ONLY. Just like you describe red shoes, describing that someone has brown skin shouldn’t come with a whole host of stereotypes, ignorant ideas and feelings. I question ever getting to that day where race doesn’t exist and we just accept our differences and move on with life.

    Your melanin is poppin! I just can’t understand how you get talked to about your dark skin all the time. We are the same skin color and I never heard this. I guess growing up in NYC surrounded by people that look like you, I never heard this dark skin/light skin stuff until I became a blogger, actually. Your skin is beautiful, I love it and I’m so glad you were strong enough to not let any of those things growing up affect the way you think about yourself and your skin.

    I had a complex about my lips because of ONE comment a non-black friend made. It wasn’t until I kissed a mixed guy with full lips that I was like, yo they buggin. If this is what it’s like to kiss me, I’m the Sugar Honey Ice Tea around here!

    I couldn’t imagine constantly hearing something about my skin like that. I would have never turned to dye or bleach like they are doing in Nigeria and other countries, but I just would have always had an issue internally.


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    • Bwahahahha! Sugar honey ice tea! Oh but yes we are!!!
      And thank you for the beautiful words! *hugs*
      I never understood it either especially as I did live amongst people who looked every thing like me. Or at least should have! My mum got sucked into that bleaching life so I saw first hand what it can do to your skin. I knew a girl once who would wrap her face to go out just so the sun didn’t get to her cos of her bleaching. I remember someone describing her as fair and I was arguing about that. I hadn’t seen said girl in a while so I was arguing based on how I remember her. Seeing her after that argument was a shock because she really couldn’t be described as dark anymore! It is sad and I wish people will stop this nonsense. Rejoice in the skin you have and understand that no one is allowed to have an opinion on your skin color or anything else for that matter.

    • And I never identify as a woman of color, woc etc. I’m a black woman, born in Chicago, raised in Nigeria and proud of the skin I’m in. As for Beyonce, it’s not just her. Every famous black woman shouldn’t be rushing to identify with this brands because if they were not popular, they won’t be all over them. Until every designer uses 90% black models for their shows, I won’t be thinking of using my money on them. If I will dole out massive cash for a bag, I better see more black models than Caucasian on the runway. My money will be better spent uplifting black owned businesses!

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