Dark skin

The Hässliche Wahrheit About Haut Farbe

I am still dreaming of spring, 2017 goals are still fresh and it is step by step! *See last post!*

Anyways, I visited a blog after recommendations from curlspopping and I read this post that discussed a race topic.

I quite agree with her on the fact that the savior mentality is real and should be squashed.

The black woman struggles daily and to have people ignore you when you point out the problem but applaud a person for fixing it is may be not just wrong but very disrespectful. And this is the problem. A lot of non black folks are quick to admit that there isn’t any race problem which is why when black people bring the issue up, they sound like race baiters, people who only see segregation and are intent on division.

Now according to her post which was based on the NASA movie involving the black queens who made history behind closed doors, she was upset that no one applauded Taraji P Henson’´s character for pointing out the problem and my question was why didn’t she? Should we have to wait for someone to take the first step before we join in? What was it Obama said? Be the change you want!

No one but us will celebrate us and that is a fact. The black community got upset with Marc Jacobs for using hair styles made famous by black people who by the way get dissed for it, on his caucasian models and had not one dark model. Yet, according to news, beyonce was seen wearing an outfit from that exact same line.

Talking about beyonce, she made a speech during an award show, talking about how no one wanted to dress her girl band because they were nobody and black no less- today, she is a multi millionaire and she struts around with clothes styled by same people to whom she was invincible and yet she is a demi god to a ton of people? I’m clueless as to how that is.

The blogger’s response to my comment on her post was amazing. I was in awe of how she accepted the fact that she could have done something and not wait for other people. She is an amazing blogger and has all these interesting posts about being African which I totally love!

Our skin is and should be our pride. How we respect it reflects on who we are. Our skin shouldn’t limit us.

We need to rise above it all….And by that I mean every single thing that promises to shut us down. The black community in America came up with the slogan “stay woke” and for me I think a lot of people hide behind that. There isn’t any nation as unwoke as the American people and it’s sad really.

But you know, what do I know abi? I’m just here, sipping my glass of cheap red wine.

I have accepted the clowns in the white House, and that is me being the bigger person ….However unwilling!

Agreements that probably took a while to be negotiated, have been destroyed by bigotry, fear and hate.

But we aren’t talking about that are we? No hell no. We are talking about how the color of my skin scares idiots into hating anyone that looks like me.

Fear is a powerful thing and it is dangerous. Hate even more so. No one is born with all these evil feelings. They are taught as we know. But you can’t keep blaming parents anymore. When kids grow up, go to school and interact, they are able to tell the difference between good and bad.

Whatever choices they make is on them from then on and not their idiotic parents. So me? I stopped blaming parents because kids when they get older should know better. They cannot be hiding behind bad parenting for the rest of their sorry lives because they then become what their parents are and the vicious cycle goes on forever.

Talking about skin color, I grew up not liking the term “people of color”.

It made no sense to me as to why black people in America would be OK with being described as a person of color. According to Wikipedia, Joseph Truman argues that the term is attractive because it unites disparate ethnic and racial groups into a larger collective in solidarity with one another.

Infact, the term was mostly used for mixed race people but was later used to describe black people.

Me, I say hogwash!

Black people were called colored and the term was deemed offensive yet somehow, person of color isn’t offensive? I can’t wrap my head around that one.

My skin is brown. My blood is red. I’m a black woman.

I’m not a person of color…Side eye…I don’t turn pink when pinched or blue when hit( now please tell me how a Caucasian person wouldn’t be offended by that)

No offense Liebhaber… I’m trying to make a point. And I still love you, pink cheeks and all!!!!!

But seriously, I never refer to myself as a woman of color because that’s not what I am.

My skin is brown, my blood is red. I am a black woman.

I think that someone woke up from a good sleep and said to himself(because we know it has to be a man don’t we?) “Darn it! Today I will make it known that from hence forth, anyone with one white parent will be called a person of color.”

Or maybe “Aw shucks! Nah that dude got it wrong. Every black American is a person of interest…Oh I mean color. Yes that’s right. A person of color.”

Skin color shouldn’t be a determining factor as to who or what a person is or can do. Having a dark skin tone shouldn’t be a cause for alarm.

I grew up understanding that my very dark skin offended a lot of people, men and women alike. “You are so black.”

“Why are you so dark,” they would ask me when they saw my twin or older sister.

“You are too dark, tattoos will not show on your black skin.” Ironically, the person who said this to me, his nose all wrinkled up by the idea of a girl being as dark as I am, had a darker skin tone than I did.

But hey, it’s OK because he is male and he gets a pass for his chromosome that was given to him by a woman who probably looked like me.

My skin is brown, my blood is red. I am a black woman.

Girls in Nigeria turn to the tubs of cream to help rid them of their skin tone because men don’t find dark skin sexy. Sad isn’t it.

Speaking of, have you ever wondered why people are angry when a dark girl turns her skin white but a man becomes a woman and a community is created for him? He is called brave and awards are tossed at him? Please don’t site health issues because both face risks.

Seems very much like a man’s world oder?

Chew on that but enjoy the week and stay safe.



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